I don’t know about you, but I love Facebook. Really, I do. I love being able to keep up with people, wish friends and family a quick happy birthday or chime in when someone asks a question.
But…you knew there had to be a “but” in there, didn’t you?
But, I love Facebook because I’ve curated Facebook to make it what I need (as much as I can, anyway, what with changing algorithms and Mark Zuckerberg’s whims). I follow the people who infuse happiness into my stream. I like brands and services that reflect my positive attitude and my outlook on life. I purposefully make social media a happy place to land, at least most of the time.
Personally, I sometimes wonder if the disconnect comes from the fact that social media really only shows a small person of someone’s life—what she or he chooses to share via status updates, tweets, and pictures—rather than the entirety of life. So what sometimes happens as we scroll through a timelime, especially if we’re having a bad day or we’re going through a difficult time, is that we start comparing our real life to everyone else’s highlight reels.
Think about it for a second: if we were sitting face to face, sharing a meal or a beverage of choice, the conversation would flow from funny to sentimental, and we’d talk about the ups and downs of life. When we experience each other’s lives from behind a screen, though, we get the edited version. The less messy version. The less real version.
So today, I want to encourage you to ditch the screen and go for coffee with someone. Put your phones away for a precious few minutes and kick it like it’s 1988—no tech, no distractions, no highlight reels. Just true connection.